By Pam Finger
from Condensed Chicken Soup for the Soul 
            Copyright 1996 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen & 
	           	Patty Hansen 
  
       You do not have to be your mother unless she is who 
  you want to be. You do not have to be your mother's mother, 
  or your mother's mother's mother, or even your grandmother's 
  mother on your father's side. You may inherit their chins 
  or their hips or their eyes, but you are not destined to 
  become the women who came before you. You are not destined 
  to live their lives. So if you inherit something, inherit 
  their strength, their resilience. Because the only person 
  you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.